Wear Everything They Said You Couldn’t
- April 03, 2017
Let’s get one thing clear…society’s a bitch. I’ve grown up hearing that a good Indian girl wears modest clothes, doesn’t leave her hair down and NEVVVVVVER wears makeup. Even though, being the feminist that I am, I have continually rebelled against such rules, somehow, unwittingly, I kept adhering to them, all my life. I always kept clear of the crop-tops and the tight-fitting clothes because I always believed that such clothes suit only “certain body-types”. I’d stick to just a simple smear of Kohl in my eyes because “proper makeup” was reserved for occa
But recently I had an epiphany. I realised that I CAN WEAR WHATEVER THE HELL I WANT BECAUSE I AM MY OWN PERSON.
Thus, I bring to you, my very own version of “Fuck what people say”. I wore a black hoodie crop-top with high waist trousers (also black), with chunky rings that I could knock people out with. I coloured my hair green and went with full glam makeup.
I’ve never been a big fan of trousers. I’ve always been more a shorts girl. But since I basically live in the North Pole, I can’t really bust out the shorts just yet. Initially I wouldn’t look beyond the low or regular waist jeans because “high waist pants look good only if you have a flat tummy”. Turns out, that that rule was complete donkey-poop. High-waist pants actually act like tummy-tuckers and make your tummy look flatter than it is. They give shape to your legs and make your arse look like you do squats all day everyday. So no, stop going over to the low-waist jeans section and instead, try on those high-waist jeans that you thought would never look good on you.
I don’t think there is anybody who doesn’t know how big a fashion comeback, the crop-top has made.So, I’m sure everybody, at some point, has wanted to wear one. If you haven’t, then that’s okay. But if you have, but haven’t had the guts to buy one because your super-cute and fluffy tummy will be exposed then you’re just like me. It took me forever to try on a crop-top and even when I did, I chose the longest one available in the shop. I know. What a wuss. But that was then. Now, thirty percent of my tops are crop-tops. In the beginning I’d wear them with a tank top or a camisole underneath, so that my tummy was safe and hidden away from the public eye. Slowly, I started wearing them without the undershirt but was ALWAYS conscious about how much of my skin could be seen. “Can they see my muffin top?” “Ohmygod what if my stretch-marks are visible.”
Eventually I realised that nobody really gave a fuck. As for the people who did notice my tummy occasionally peeping out, and thought it would be funny to sneer at me…I decided that they weren’t worth the attention and importance I was clearly giving them. I love to eat and I love wearing crop tops. Why should I give up on either just because a group of insecure people might make fun of me. I’m not the fittest of the bunch, but I’m healthy and I’m happy so if I want to wear a belly-baring ninja top then I sure as hell am going to. Not that at matters, but let me address one misconception people have about crop tops. They don’t actually make you look fat. They make your waist look tinier than it actually is and they make you look tall. The best part is that there are a gazillion different styles of crop tops and you can choose ones which you feel comfortable in. Just because I am willing to show my tummy in all its glory, doesn’t mean that you have to too. You can give a teensy peek or you can cover it completely. The point is that you shouldn’t be afraid of trying something as cute as a crop-top simply because you read in some overrated magazine, that they don’t suit your “body-type”.
I’ve always been pretty wary of my “sausage fingers”. Rings were never really an option for me. So, I’d try to draw the attention away from my fingers by wearing chunky bangles instead. Don’t worry, I still love my bangles, but I have now grown to love rings. I love big and chunky statement pieces and I love small and elegant understated pieces. Contrary to popular opinion, rings can be worn with absolutely anything. You can experiment with slightly inconspicuous rings till you feel comfortable enough to wear the big and bold ones. But lose the notion that you can’t wear rings on a regular day (on a work or college day). YES YOU CAN. Accessorising can make any basic look (like an all black ensemble duh) look…well…anything but basic.
Finally, let’s talk about my favourite part of any look – the makeup. I’ve always felt a need for makeup, even during my school years. It’s not that I feel it makes me look less ugly, but actually, it gives me an extra boost of confidence. But I’ve seen that people like to attribute other’s desire to wear makeup and “look pretty” to the most ridiculous things. I remember, once, in school, I was being reprimanded for wearing “kajal” (which I completely deserved), but then, the principal arrived, and she asked me which guy I was trying to impress by wearing makeup. I was shocked. Why would a strong and empowered woman ask me whether I’m wearing makeup to impress a guy?! I was wearing Kajal because I felt confident when I saw myself in the mirror.
I’ve seen so many posts on social media about how women “tricking” men by wearing makeup. I don’t wear makeup so that some random stranger might think I’m pretty. I wear it so that I feel confident and badass. I can wear bold lip colours and glittery eye-shadow whenever the hell I want because I do not need the excuse of an occasion to look good. So don’t you ever let anybody tease you for wearing makeup on a regular day. There is nothing wrong with wanting to always look your absolute best.
I know that I might come off a little too strong, asking you to do too many things at once. It might look like I was bitching about patriarchy and the society. But I wasn’t. Okay I was, but that is something I cannot help. I actually was simply trying to tell you to go try out and do these things because you CAN. Don’t let silly norms get in the way of you being happy and confident. Don’t let anybody dictate what would and what wouldn’t look good on you.