If You’ve Got It, Flaunt It
- April 03, 2017
Everybody’s body is different. So expecting everybody to fit into the same type of clothes is just plain ignorant. But we’ve covered that before. What I’m more interested in today, is this need for people to want to manipulate their body to fit into a body-type VERY different from their own. No hun, we’re not all hourglass-shaped, tall, slender swans. So stop trying to make your clothes “create the illusion” that you are!
No, I don’t think you’re “cheating”people if you dress in a way that makes you look different than you actually look. I think that you’re simply insulting the body that you’ve been gifted with. You’re looking at that beautiful, unique body that you have, and you’re deciding that it isn’t good enough. And that is just not okay.
I’ll be honest with you; I’ve done the same, for a large part of my life.
I have read article after article on how to “look less bulky” and “look slender” and all sorts of similar crap. But guess what, I’m not slender, I don’t have a tiny waist, I have wide hips and very broad shoulders. And I’ve had just about enough of trying to hide them or pretend that my body is anything different than what it is.
I have always been very aware of my broad shoulders and my large structure. So I’ve always steered clear of anything that might make my shoulders look broader, like boat-neck dresses and tops, anything with structured shoulders, etc. But that was just so stupid of me! Why in the world should I hide the parts of me that make me unique?!
So, when I saw this square-shouldered asymmetric top at Zara, I knew I HAD to try it on. And once I put that top on, I felt like a goddamned warrior goddess. My shoulders looked broad and GORGEOUS, as if I had done 234524 sets on the shoulder-press. I looked broad and I looked tall. The colour brought out my tan BEAUTIFULLY and made my hair look shiny and golden and amaaazing! So I bought this beautiful piece of clothing, that I wouldn’t have even dared look at, a couple of years ago.
The asymmetric hem makes me look tall, while that badass knot in the front makes my hips look wide and curvy as heck (precisely how they’re meant to look). The sleeves accentuate the musculature of my arms and just add a badass touch to the overall look (nothing looks as badass as full-sleeves I mean c’mon!). The top made me feel strong, powerful and practically invincible. It made me realise how stupid I had been, all these years, trying to look petite and trying to camouflage the parts of me that make me one of a kind!
Despite its overall badassery, the top is a bit plain, on its own. And I simply don’t do “plain”. I glammed up the look by adding this eye-catching handcrafted silver necklace. The oxidised silver teeth (fangs?????) up the badass-quotient while the silk rope-braid bit adds some shine and femininity to the look.
I kept with the same “badass-warrior-goddess” theme in my makeup. I went for a greyish-green smokey-eye look with a touch of gold highlight on the inner corners of my eyes to make the look a lot more bold and regal. I opted for bold, thick wings and thick, bushy brows, to just really elevate the look.
I went for a strong contour (to really accentuate my cheekbones and my jaw-line). I opted for a pinkish-nude lipstick to tie the whole look together. I usually love bright, bold lips, but since I wanted my eyes to be the focus this time, I went for a subtle lip-colour instead. I left my hair wavy and messy, instead of straightening it or curling it to make it look less…mane-like.
It is important for us, as people, to understand, that we’re all one of a kind. Some of us are fatter than others. Some of us are shorter than others. Some of us are darker. Some of us are not as curvy as others. There is no “mould” that you need to fit into; it’s all in your mind. Celebrate your uniqueness, instead of being ashamed of it. And this goes for those of you who are on the skinny side as well! God knows you face your share of body-shaming. Go ahead and wear all the tight-fitting dresses you want, instead of having to wear clothes that contort your body into looking curvier than it is. If you’re super tall and lanky, go ahead and wear the platform heels, you know you’ll look amazing in. Why the hell should you compromise on looking like an Amazonian goddess, just because people think that you’re “too tall as it is”?
Love your bodies, just the way they are, and wear things that accentuate your unique features, instead of hiding them. Because you deserve better.